There are many misconceptions about trans people because unless you go through it, you don't really understand it. Even people who mean well can get a little mixed up about what is fact and what isn't too accurate. Testosterone causes a lot of these misunderstandings.
- Taking T for transitioning will cause "roid rage."
- Taking T will give you cancer.
- Taking T will make you taller.
- Taking T will make your breasts disappear completely.
- If you stop taking T after chest surgery, your breasts will grow back.
- Taking T will make you gay.
- Taking large doses of T will make you transition faster.
- Taking T will make you fat.
1. For the first, that is too broad of a statement. It's a generalization that is simply false. Yes, some experience being shorter tempered. In contrast, many say that they feel calmer on T. It all depends upon the individual.
2. This is a pretty big one. Many people have heard it causes cancer. Even on this blog, I have a warning about the possibility of the increased risk of cancer due to taking T. Trans people have not been studied enough to know if it increases the risk. Personally, I'd rather be prepared than thinking it's a total myth. As of right now, there is not enough evidence to prove or disprove this "myth."
3. If you're taking T after puberty, sorry. You pretty much don't have any hope of growing super tall. (Bummer, right?) If you start before puberty, you might grow to be tall.
4. The fat in your body will move from a female-like pattern to a more male-like pattern due to the use of T. So your breasts will shrink, but not be totally gone. You need surgery to get the rest of that breast tissue outta there.
5. Some fatty tissue might build back up, but nothing too significant.
6. Human sexuality is a complex subject. It isn't gonna make you just "turn" gay. Your attractions may shift a bit, but often times you stay attracted to the same sex you start with.
7. DO NOT DO THIS. It's not good for you. It won't make you transition any faster; it'll just kill you. Seriously, just don't do it.
8. No, it won't directly make you fat. There are many other factors that contribute to weight gain. Testosterone can affect your metabolic rate and things like that. Make sure you just keep yourself healthy when on T and you'll be just fine.
Anything I missed? Anything you want more info on? Shoot me an email: TheAidenApocalypse@gmail.com
As always, I hope I helped and I hope all is well with you. Thanks for reading guys! :)
I want to get some of your feedback. I want to know your opinions on things. I want to get to know you. I am going to post some opinion questions below and I would appreciate it if you would take a little bit of your time to share your opinions with me. I'd love another point of view. Thanks!
1. Would you ever date someone who is transsexual? Pre-op? Post-op?
2. Which surgeries are you interested in? (If any)
3. How do you feel about the word "passing?"
4. Do you own/want a strap-on?
5. Do you go swimming? If so, what do you wear?
6. Do you wear a binder and/or compression shorts? Do you like them? Would you reccommend it?
7. Do you pack? If so, what do you use to pack with?
8. Are you interested in or do you have an STP device? If you have one, do you like it? And which one do you have?
9. What is your preferred name?
10. Do you plan on taking T?
As I said, I would love to hear from you. I want to post your opinions and things. I want to discuss with my readers. Please, do this little survey. It would mean a lot to me and could help add more depth to this blog.
Email your answers or anything else to TheAidenApocalypse@gmail.com
Thanks again! :D
Alright, we're gonna talk about sex. I'm gonna try my best to make this not awkward. I'm not 100% comfortable with this subject so hang in there because I will still present some good ideas.
For bros who haven't had surgery or anything, sex is an uncomfortable topic. I haven't had surgery, nor am I on T. I have a strap-on. You have to have an uncomfortable talk with your partner ahead of time. But most will be fine with that (assuming they already know you're trans). After the awkward discussion, the fun part is next. You have to make sure you have lube or a lubricated condom. Obviously a strap-on doesn't respond like a normal dick does. And after this stuff, you just get to it.
I hate being naked. Hate it. I dread taking a shower every morning. I hate that I can't feel my skin against someone else's during sex. But this is being a transsexual. I don't let people touch me, if you get what I'm saying. I have more of a mental release. I don't really know how to explain it. When the girl (since I'm straight) orgasms, it's like I do too without being touched. It kinda sounds like some other transmen have this too.
If you don't own/want a strap-on, you can always do things with your hands or oral. I just never felt like that was enough for me to feel like a man. You know what I mean? But that's just me.
And if you have had surgery, I can't really help you since you kinda don't need it. You got what you need. This post isn't really for you.
Anything to add? Shoot me an email TheAidenApocalypse@gmail.com
I found a poem written by an FTM transsexual and I have found it to be heartwrenching. It's beautiful and I hope you will take the time to read and enjoy it. It was written by a transman named Diego.
I look in
the mirror but It's not me
I look at the person that they can't see.
The
church says no, you can't do that
you can't be Diego, or we'll turn our
backs.
We'll kick you out, there's no excuse,
you must stop dreaming,
there is no use.
You're not a boy, you're only a girl,
We don't care how
much you world will swirl.
With confusion and pain, you cannot change
your
gender is girl, anything else Is strange
and will not be tolerated within our
walls
you change yourself and we'll make you fall.
I have my dreams of
becoming a dad
and becoming a man but to them thats bad.
To them that's
wrong, but how can this be?
Doesnt god love everyone? Even me?
If he loves
me he'll want me to find my true self
If he loves me he knows me and knows
how I felt.
If he knew how I felt then he sees in my eye,
If he see's me
then why is he letting me cry?
To me, It's not just changing the way that I
dress,
It's letting me sleep at night, letting me rest.
Laying my head
down, feeling complete,
Introducing myself confidently to the people I
meet.
Going through life atleast knowing my name,
Atleast knowing my
identity without any shame.
Memories of pain, memories of sorrow,
Memores
of maybe having a different tomarrow.
Nothing has changed, and it never
will,
Seems like time has stopped and stood still.
I'll never get out of
here, look's like I'm stuck,
Wish life was fair, but I'm all out of
luck.
I will make some more post about sex. This one isn't really my doing. I'm just giving you information from someone else. I think it's really good. It's for safe sex with transmen/women and their partners. There is a lot of information there, but read it. You'll be glad you did.
http://handbasketproductions.com/Trans%20Sex%20Ed%20%28ezine%29.pdf
I have found a mentor program for trans people. You can search for people near you. It's not a dating site, just helpful for you to talk to people who know what you're going through. And maybe they can help you know what to expect.
Just register, make a profile, and there you go. You can put as little or as much information on there as you want. You can send messages to other transguys for free and everything. I think this could be a great resource for you.
I hope you can find whatever kind of help you are looking for with your transition.
The link:
http://www.ftmmentors.org/main/index.php
Feel free to find me and send me a message. My name is Aiden_Apocalypse
When I was little, I loved swimming. It was always so much fun. But after I realized I was trans, I didn't want to swim anymore. I'm tired of missing out on things I like/want to do. I'm sure there are more people like me out there. Realized you were trans, stopped swimming? Either way I'll give you some times so you no longer have to miss swimming.
Pre chest surgery: Obviously you aren't gonna wear a bikini or any of that stuff. But you can't exactly go shirtless either. Solution: surf shirts, rash guards, unitards, wetsuits, body suits, and/or swimvests. These are better than wearing t-shirts because they are designed to be worn in water and won't become heavy and water-logged (which can be extra bad for those with larger chests). You might need to bind in combination with one of these. On underworks, they have compression swimwear designed for FTMs that you might want to check out.
Some pools have rules against people wearing t-shirts or other "street clothes" in the pool. Check the rules of where you are going before you go. Many bio males keep their shirts on in the water due to sunburn or self-confidence issues. So no one will look at you and judge you (trust me, I've done it).
Packing: When swimming, your trunks tend to cling to your body. This clinging can show off your genital area. You might want to pack while swimming. Your packer needs to be able to be submerged in water without losing shape or taking on water. Most store-bought soft packers would be fine.
Some links for getting swimwear to cover your chest:
www.neosportusa.com
www.scuba.com
www.ftm.underworks.com
www.swimoutlet.com
www.diversdirect.com
Know any more links? Have more to add? Shoot me an email: TheAidenApocalypse@gmail.com
