I found a poem written by an FTM transsexual and I have found it to be heartwrenching. It's beautiful and I hope you will take the time to read and enjoy it. It was written by a transman named Diego.
I look in
the mirror but It's not me
I look at the person that they can't see.
The
church says no, you can't do that
you can't be Diego, or we'll turn our
backs.
We'll kick you out, there's no excuse,
you must stop dreaming,
there is no use.
You're not a boy, you're only a girl,
We don't care how
much you world will swirl.
With confusion and pain, you cannot change
your
gender is girl, anything else Is strange
and will not be tolerated within our
walls
you change yourself and we'll make you fall.
I have my dreams of
becoming a dad
and becoming a man but to them thats bad.
To them that's
wrong, but how can this be?
Doesnt god love everyone? Even me?
If he loves
me he'll want me to find my true self
If he loves me he knows me and knows
how I felt.
If he knew how I felt then he sees in my eye,
If he see's me
then why is he letting me cry?
To me, It's not just changing the way that I
dress,
It's letting me sleep at night, letting me rest.
Laying my head
down, feeling complete,
Introducing myself confidently to the people I
meet.
Going through life atleast knowing my name,
Atleast knowing my
identity without any shame.
Memories of pain, memories of sorrow,
Memores
of maybe having a different tomarrow.
Nothing has changed, and it never
will,
Seems like time has stopped and stood still.
I'll never get out of
here, look's like I'm stuck,
Wish life was fair, but I'm all out of
luck.
Showing posts with label support. Show all posts
Showing posts with label support. Show all posts
Monday, October 29, 2012
Friday, September 14, 2012
Looking For A "Big Brother?"
I have found a mentor program for trans people. You can search for people near you. It's not a dating site, just helpful for you to talk to people who know what you're going through. And maybe they can help you know what to expect.
Just register, make a profile, and there you go. You can put as little or as much information on there as you want. You can send messages to other transguys for free and everything. I think this could be a great resource for you.
I hope you can find whatever kind of help you are looking for with your transition.
The link:
http://www.ftmmentors.org/main/index.php
Feel free to find me and send me a message. My name is Aiden_Apocalypse
Just register, make a profile, and there you go. You can put as little or as much information on there as you want. You can send messages to other transguys for free and everything. I think this could be a great resource for you.
I hope you can find whatever kind of help you are looking for with your transition.
The link:
http://www.ftmmentors.org/main/index.php
Feel free to find me and send me a message. My name is Aiden_Apocalypse
Monday, September 3, 2012
Like A Fish
When I was little, I loved swimming. It was always so much fun. But after I realized I was trans, I didn't want to swim anymore. I'm tired of missing out on things I like/want to do. I'm sure there are more people like me out there. Realized you were trans, stopped swimming? Either way I'll give you some times so you no longer have to miss swimming.
Pre chest surgery: Obviously you aren't gonna wear a bikini or any of that stuff. But you can't exactly go shirtless either. Solution: surf shirts, rash guards, unitards, wetsuits, body suits, and/or swimvests. These are better than wearing t-shirts because they are designed to be worn in water and won't become heavy and water-logged (which can be extra bad for those with larger chests). You might need to bind in combination with one of these. On underworks, they have compression swimwear designed for FTMs that you might want to check out.
Some pools have rules against people wearing t-shirts or other "street clothes" in the pool. Check the rules of where you are going before you go. Many bio males keep their shirts on in the water due to sunburn or self-confidence issues. So no one will look at you and judge you (trust me, I've done it).
Packing: When swimming, your trunks tend to cling to your body. This clinging can show off your genital area. You might want to pack while swimming. Your packer needs to be able to be submerged in water without losing shape or taking on water. Most store-bought soft packers would be fine.
Some links for getting swimwear to cover your chest:
www.neosportusa.com
www.scuba.com
www.ftm.underworks.com
www.swimoutlet.com
www.diversdirect.com
Know any more links? Have more to add? Shoot me an email: TheAidenApocalypse@gmail.com
Pre chest surgery: Obviously you aren't gonna wear a bikini or any of that stuff. But you can't exactly go shirtless either. Solution: surf shirts, rash guards, unitards, wetsuits, body suits, and/or swimvests. These are better than wearing t-shirts because they are designed to be worn in water and won't become heavy and water-logged (which can be extra bad for those with larger chests). You might need to bind in combination with one of these. On underworks, they have compression swimwear designed for FTMs that you might want to check out.
Some pools have rules against people wearing t-shirts or other "street clothes" in the pool. Check the rules of where you are going before you go. Many bio males keep their shirts on in the water due to sunburn or self-confidence issues. So no one will look at you and judge you (trust me, I've done it).
Packing: When swimming, your trunks tend to cling to your body. This clinging can show off your genital area. You might want to pack while swimming. Your packer needs to be able to be submerged in water without losing shape or taking on water. Most store-bought soft packers would be fine.
Some links for getting swimwear to cover your chest:
www.neosportusa.com
www.scuba.com
www.ftm.underworks.com
www.swimoutlet.com
www.diversdirect.com
Know any more links? Have more to add? Shoot me an email: TheAidenApocalypse@gmail.com
Friday, August 31, 2012
Let me see your hips SWING!
Sad fact: FTMs generally have larger hips than bio males. I know my hips are larger than I would like them to be (especially since I wear skinny jeans). I get quite frustrated with them.
Did you know that there are boxers that you can get that will slim your hips? The lovely website where most FTMs buy their binders, underworks.com, has those boxers. They call them "compression shorts." On that website, they cost $25.
I had been considering getting a pair or two in order to help my hips slim down. I will have to pay for my surgeries and t and everything out of pocket, so I wasn't sure if I wanted to fork over money for those too.
I needed some new boxers, but I didn't want to pay $25 a pair. So I went to Walmart to get some regular boxer-briefs. I was looking around and what did I find? Compression shorts. They aren't designed for FTMs, but I thought, "Why not?" They were only $7 and I didn't really have anything to lose.
I bought a pair. I think they are amazing. They might not give as smooth of hips as the ones designed for us would, but it's enough for me. They are Starter brand. They are made for guys to work out in so they aren't "free-ballin." They come in different colors. I believe they had black, blue, gray, and red. I got the red ones.
I thought you guys might like to know about this great opportunity to acquire some good compression shorts. I mean, there are Walmarts everywhere.
I hope this helped you guys! Have a great day!
Did you know that there are boxers that you can get that will slim your hips? The lovely website where most FTMs buy their binders, underworks.com, has those boxers. They call them "compression shorts." On that website, they cost $25.
I had been considering getting a pair or two in order to help my hips slim down. I will have to pay for my surgeries and t and everything out of pocket, so I wasn't sure if I wanted to fork over money for those too.
I needed some new boxers, but I didn't want to pay $25 a pair. So I went to Walmart to get some regular boxer-briefs. I was looking around and what did I find? Compression shorts. They aren't designed for FTMs, but I thought, "Why not?" They were only $7 and I didn't really have anything to lose.
I bought a pair. I think they are amazing. They might not give as smooth of hips as the ones designed for us would, but it's enough for me. They are Starter brand. They are made for guys to work out in so they aren't "free-ballin." They come in different colors. I believe they had black, blue, gray, and red. I got the red ones.
I thought you guys might like to know about this great opportunity to acquire some good compression shorts. I mean, there are Walmarts everywhere.
I hope this helped you guys! Have a great day!
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Shoes And Lifts
Most stores don't carry shoes smaller than a men's size 7. Trans guys tend to have smaller feet than bio males. So it's harder to find shoes. (I'm lucky because I have big feet. Size 9)
The internet is the best place for you to find smaller sizes. First, you should get your feet measured by a professional at a shoe store. If they don't have shoes in your size, go home and order some from online. If they have your size, you're a lucky duck and can choose to get a pair from the store or go home and order some.
Another issue can be helped/solved by shoes: height. You can get lifts for inside your shoes to give you a little more height. You could also get shoes with lifts made into them. The issue with shoes with lifts inside is that only that pair of shoes will add height, where as lifts can be moved from pair to pair. However, shoes with lifts already inside tend to be more comfortable and fit better.
I'm going to focus on the removable lifts because I find them to be a better option. I have a lot of shoes and would like to be taller in all of them. Lifts can be made of cork, plastic, or foam. They should be replaced every few months because of hygienic reasons. You might want to use lifts gradually so you don't get really tall really fast. Lifts can be uncomfortable and might not fit in smaller size shoes.
Obviously there are advantages and disadvantages to both lift options. I find the removable ones better, but that's just my opinion. I'm about 5'6" and would love a little extra height. And I want to be able to wear all my pairs of shoes.
Choose whatever option you like best. Maybe you don't need either because you're tall enough. I hope I helped at least a little.
Here are links to lifts:
http://www.tallerheels.com/
http://www.talleryou.com/
I think the second link has better availible heights and also has sample packs with great deals.
And here are links to lifting shoes:
http://www.elevatorshoes.com/
http://www.walktallshoes.com/
http://www.tallmenshoes.com/
The last link has the most options.
The internet is the best place for you to find smaller sizes. First, you should get your feet measured by a professional at a shoe store. If they don't have shoes in your size, go home and order some from online. If they have your size, you're a lucky duck and can choose to get a pair from the store or go home and order some.
Another issue can be helped/solved by shoes: height. You can get lifts for inside your shoes to give you a little more height. You could also get shoes with lifts made into them. The issue with shoes with lifts inside is that only that pair of shoes will add height, where as lifts can be moved from pair to pair. However, shoes with lifts already inside tend to be more comfortable and fit better.
I'm going to focus on the removable lifts because I find them to be a better option. I have a lot of shoes and would like to be taller in all of them. Lifts can be made of cork, plastic, or foam. They should be replaced every few months because of hygienic reasons. You might want to use lifts gradually so you don't get really tall really fast. Lifts can be uncomfortable and might not fit in smaller size shoes.
Obviously there are advantages and disadvantages to both lift options. I find the removable ones better, but that's just my opinion. I'm about 5'6" and would love a little extra height. And I want to be able to wear all my pairs of shoes.
Choose whatever option you like best. Maybe you don't need either because you're tall enough. I hope I helped at least a little.
Here are links to lifts:
http://www.tallerheels.com/
http://www.talleryou.com/
I think the second link has better availible heights and also has sample packs with great deals.
And here are links to lifting shoes:
http://www.elevatorshoes.com/
http://www.walktallshoes.com/
http://www.tallmenshoes.com/
The last link has the most options.
Friday, July 13, 2012
STP Devices
STP stands for "stand-to-pee." Having an STP device can be really useful for ftm's. You could potentially use a urinal in the mens restroom. There are different kinds of devices. Some devices you can make at home. Others must be bought. There are two groups of the kind you can buy: packers and non-packers.
If you want to make an STP devise for yourself, you can use a coffe can lid or a plastic disk. Cut the lip off of the lid so that it is flat. The plastic needs to be flexible enough to be rolled up into a funnel or "u-shape." Figure out what rolled up shape works best for you and there you go.
You could also use a medicine spoon to make an Stp. You put the wide end of the spoon up against you and angle the other end downward. You need to practice at home so you don't have leakage. If there are rough edges or a lip on the spoon, you can sand them down. Fine-grit sandpaper should do the trick nicely.
Non-packers do not remain in your underwear all the time. You normally keep them in your back pocket and take them out as you need them. There are different brands and types available:
- Urinall is a lightweight, hard funnel. It is about the size of a large medicine spoon. It comes with a length of latex tubing that can be removed and replaced. http://www.urinall.com/home/
http://www.kristascups.com/
http://www.kristascups.com/
http://www.whizproducts.co.uk/en/
http://pee-zees.tripod.com/
http://www.shewee.com/
http://www.freshette.com/
http://www.campmor.com/
http://www.magellans.com/
http://whizzy4you.com/
Now, let's discuss the most popular type of STP's: packers. Most transguys find it's easier to get the STP packer because then you don't have to buy a regular packer and and STP seperately. STP packers can fool men in the restroom and locker room. You don't have to use a stall if you have one of these. They are generally more expensive, but I think they are worth it. You pee through a tube that runs through the shaft. You usually wear a harness with it.
http://www.likerealusa.com/
http://www.hg-prosthetics.com/
Mango products is another option, but I strongly suggest against it. People have been complaining about not receiving their paid orders and don't hear back from customer service.
So there are some different options for you to check out. Let me know if you know any other sites or if one of these sites is no good. And I have been getting quite a few page views, thanks guys! Give me any feedback and I hope I have been helping you! Have a great day :D
If you want to make an STP devise for yourself, you can use a coffe can lid or a plastic disk. Cut the lip off of the lid so that it is flat. The plastic needs to be flexible enough to be rolled up into a funnel or "u-shape." Figure out what rolled up shape works best for you and there you go.
You could also use a medicine spoon to make an Stp. You put the wide end of the spoon up against you and angle the other end downward. You need to practice at home so you don't have leakage. If there are rough edges or a lip on the spoon, you can sand them down. Fine-grit sandpaper should do the trick nicely.
Non-packers do not remain in your underwear all the time. You normally keep them in your back pocket and take them out as you need them. There are different brands and types available:
- TravelMate is a modification of the medicine spoon. http://www.whenyagottago.com/
- There are plenty of others, but I don't have time to explain all of them. Here are the links:http://www.kristascups.com/
http://www.kristascups.com/
http://www.whizproducts.co.uk/en/
http://pee-zees.tripod.com/
http://www.shewee.com/
http://www.freshette.com/
http://www.campmor.com/
http://www.magellans.com/
http://whizzy4you.com/
Now, let's discuss the most popular type of STP's: packers. Most transguys find it's easier to get the STP packer because then you don't have to buy a regular packer and and STP seperately. STP packers can fool men in the restroom and locker room. You don't have to use a stall if you have one of these. They are generally more expensive, but I think they are worth it. You pee through a tube that runs through the shaft. You usually wear a harness with it.
Here are some links:
http://www.peecockproducts.com/http://www.likerealusa.com/
http://www.hg-prosthetics.com/
Mango products is another option, but I strongly suggest against it. People have been complaining about not receiving their paid orders and don't hear back from customer service.
So there are some different options for you to check out. Let me know if you know any other sites or if one of these sites is no good. And I have been getting quite a few page views, thanks guys! Give me any feedback and I hope I have been helping you! Have a great day :D
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Support Groups and Chat
I wanted to give you some sites/places where you can connect with other trans people. I am a mamber of some of these (or will be in the future). I'll give you my screen name you you can add me. I like these kinds of sites; they make me feel like I'm not alone. You're not alone, there are others like you, and they are willing to help you. Check them out.
On vampirefreaks.com there is a "cult" of trans people and trans supporters. I post on there a lot. I think it's fun and a great way to discuss things.
My name is: emovamp177 (I made it a long time ago so I know it's a stupid name)
The cult: http://vampirefreaks.com/cult/Support_Trans_Rights
http://transmentors.org/online-support-groups.html
http://www.lauras-playground.com/trans_support_groups.htm
It's called a dating site but I consider it to just be a way to connect with other trans people. It's called transpassions.com.
My name is: AidenApocalypse
Site: http://transpassions.com/
I'll add more sites whenever I find some. The two links that don't have anything written with them I haven't checked out yet, but they seem legit. I'll look at them later and let you know. Or you can let me know in an email.
On vampirefreaks.com there is a "cult" of trans people and trans supporters. I post on there a lot. I think it's fun and a great way to discuss things.
My name is: emovamp177 (I made it a long time ago so I know it's a stupid name)
The cult: http://vampirefreaks.com/cult/Support_Trans_Rights
http://transmentors.org/online-support-groups.html
http://www.lauras-playground.com/trans_support_groups.htm
It's called a dating site but I consider it to just be a way to connect with other trans people. It's called transpassions.com.
My name is: AidenApocalypse
Site: http://transpassions.com/
I'll add more sites whenever I find some. The two links that don't have anything written with them I haven't checked out yet, but they seem legit. I'll look at them later and let you know. Or you can let me know in an email.
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